Short Hair, Don't Care

February 25, 2019


I am dying to cut my hair. Ever since I weaned Theo nearly a year ago, my hair has become less wonderful: It's thinner, and duller, and greyer. Sigh! So the urge to go shorter came on pretty hard, and last summer I cut it into a "lob," or long bob. I instantly regretted it! This may be silly, but particularly at this weird post-baby point in my life, having longer hair makes me feel more feminine and pretty. It all goes back to when I completely whacked off all of my hair and got a super short pixie style cut, like Gweneth Paltrow in Sliding Doors, when I was a freshman in high school. While Gweneth is slender and chic and blonde, I was skinny and awkward and trying to get rid of the last of the rebellious black hair dye. I also had braces. It did not go over well. I got made fun of, and called a lesbian, which makes me laugh now, but deeply wounded my sense of femininity as a 15-year-old girl. That wound went pretty deep, because despite being able to laugh at it now, I'll never deliberately go that short again, although I have had a few overzealous hairdressers get pretty close! Drrh. Now, my hair has grown back since my lob last summer, but even with the length, it's still looking pretty mediocre. So I had to ask myself, how much is long, feminine hair really doing for me?! 

I had short-ish hair off and on all throughout my life, but with the change in hair after having Theo combined with getting older and feeling less fit and toned, I just have felt weird about hair and feeling pretty. But since the new year, I have started to notice more and more short haircuts everywhere I look. Much to my delight, they are very pretty, and feminine and most certainly better than what I'm rocking at the moment. The last Boden catalogue comes to mind. And then, my gorgeous, always-ahead-of-the-trends friend, Alicia, chopped her hair off, too! I think it's settled. I'm going to go short. Now I just need flatiron recommendations to get those effortless messy waves. And don't you love the messy tie-back with the hair pins all in a row? I'm definitely swooning over here. Best of all, this look will be perfect with the over-the-top gorgeous dress I got for my brother's wedding - the actual reason we're going to Miami! I feel so sophisticated and beautiful in that dress and I do not want mediocre hair to ruin it. 

Are you a short hair person, or a long hair person - or do you go back and forth between both? Hair is a pretty big thing in Western culture. I would love to hear your thoughts on hair, and how it affects how you feel about yourself, in the comments below. Thank you for being here, and thanks a million for chiming in! That is the fun part, after all. 

And, if you're looking for some cute short hair styles or up-do's, pop on over to my Beauty Board on Pinterest. :)

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  1. Oh dear, tough one! I've always wanted a sleek bob but my hair, being quite thin, didn't have the proper weight and never cooperated. Shorter hair requires much more maintenance, especially if it's so short that you cannot put it in an emergency pony tail. To me the perfect cut is a layered LOB, it can be sleek or messy (depending on the effort you want to put into it) and has enough "swing" for that feminine feeling.
    Good luck! Bean

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    1. I keep deliberating! But I'm going for it. I just need to ask my usual gal if she does short hair as I have only been doing long since I started seeing her. Eeeek! So scary to do this. But I'm so ready. I feel really frumpy in the hair department! Thanks for the vote of confidence. And good points about the ponytail and the LOB. Considering... I think it's a beautiful thing as a woman to figure out your best hair. Glad you've got your LOB! xx

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  2. I love how short hair looks on everyone else. I tried a very short haircut in 3rd grade because it looked so good on the blonde girl in the Supercuts catalog, but as soon as I went for it, I immediately regretted the decision and blamed my mom for letting me do it. I vowed never to have short hair again. I've cut it shorter than shoulder length three times since then, but never as short as I went in 3rd grade. The drastic cut came always after a big transition in my life: right before I moved to NY for college, after a big break-up, and after my dad died. I think my neck is just not long enough and the hair on the nape of my neck goes pretty far down. Short hair just doesn't work for me. My hair is really long right now and I love it. It's definitely what makes me feel feminine, especially because I tend to wear more menswear inspired clothing. I think my long hair balances it out. BUT, as much as I love my long hair, I always get so sick of it when it gets too long and imagine chopping it all off again! ha!

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    1. It's like the bangs dilemma! I swear to myself and make pacts that I will NEVER get bangs. Then stylists want to give me bangs, because they all love bangs for some reason. Then, I regret it. And bangs grow out is the WORST! Ugh. I have to say, with regard to your hair, that it is beautiful and thick and amazing long. Keep it that way, for sure! #blessed ;)

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    2. Aw, thanks girl! I can't wait to see what you decide to do with your hair!

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  3. Just before I moved to Zurich I cut my hair short with Gwyneth Paltrow in Sliding Doors as my inspiration too! Just like you I was cutting off the last of my black hair - or rather, the last of my terrible home bleach job from trying to get rid of the black! Ha! I loved my hair short, but found that I had to wear a lot more make up to avoid looking like a 12 year old boy. And I could never style in the way I imagined in my head as my hair is quite fine and floppy. I also didn't realize just how expensive a pixie cut that requires monthly trims would be in Zurich so I ended up growing it out into a bob in the time that we lived there. I've had plenty of bobs over the years too and often think of going short again when I look back at pics, but then I remember all the effort that goes into making it sit nicely and I stick with my boring long hair. Definitely wanting some change though so I'm keen to see what you decide to do with yours!

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    1. Yeah, I don't think Sliding Doors had actually come out yet when I made the chop, but it was a haircut just like that, and then I remember wanting it again when I saw Sliding Doors and was like, "NOOOOOOO!" I knew better by then. ;)
      Zurich was pretty much the reason I ended up with such long hair. Cutting your hair costs a king's ransom there and I was not about to keep up with short hair! But I must be an anomaly because when I have short hair, I basically do nothing to it and it looks great. Long hair is a lot of work for me! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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