This is the greatest TED talk for anyone who has called more than one place home. Taiye Selasi proposes a three category system for determining where you're a local, rather than the usual focus on where you're from. These are what she calls "The Three R's": Rituals, Relationships and Restrictions. She urges you to get out a sheet of paper and examine each category. I did it and it's illuminating and fascinating to look at your life as it's lived day-to-day and see that, really, it might span multiple places beyond where you're living physically.
My favorite perspective she gives is on the idea of countries. She says, "Perhaps my biggest problem with coming from countries is the idea of going back to them...We can never go back to a place and find it exactly where we left it. Something, somewhere will always have changed. Most of all, ourselves." This has certainly proven to be true with regard to coming back to the States. And at this point, we've grown and changed so much, I wonder what it would be like if we were to go back to Switzerland?
If any of this resonates with you at all, you will just love Taiye Selasi's TED talk. Enjoy. And be sure to have paper and pen handy.
I'm curious, have you lived somewhere else and found it impossible to go back home? Were you then able to go back to where you'd been? Did you just accept a life in limbo? Or, like Taiye Selasi, have you cracked the code and found a way to live as a multi-local? I would love to hear your story! Please chime in in the comments below.