Have you ever had your heart broken?

Lately I've been thinking a lot about when Coco gets older. Most of it is exciting, but I dread the things she'll have to go through that aren't fun or enjoyable. When I was 20, I fell completely head over heels in love with a guy named Peter and then he completely broke my heart. It literally ached inside my chest and I was so utterly crushed by the whole experience that I lost ten pounds. It was the most profound sadness I had felt as an adult.

During that time, I was babysitting regularly for an alumnus of my sorority in Eugene. One day when I was leaving to go home, she could see how sad I was and asked what was the matter. I explained the situation in one sentence (it really doesn't take more than that, does it? ;) and she said the kindest two things to me. First she said with true conviction, "I know you're going to find someone just perfect and you will be so happy." I believed her. Then she went on to say something that really surprised me: "I'd never relive my twenties, no matter what you gave me I'd never go through all that again." I remembered those words often throughout my twenties (which are thankfully over!) and I was glad through the entire confusing, questioning, searching decade to have some reassurance that I wasn't undervaluing one of my life's golden ages. 

Have you seen the movie The Wackness? It's a sweet movie in a lot of ways. And Josh Peck is so handsome! I guess it's true that everybody has to have their heart broken sometime, isn't it? 

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  1. I just came across your beautiful blog on Facebook. Love it. Are you by chance talking about Donna Moore in your post? She gave me some of the best advice just like that that changed the course of my life...

    1. It was Shannon Duffy. I'm so glad you like the blog! What did Donna say?! Must have been good! :) xo


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