It seems positively ridiculous to me now, but while I was pregnant with Theo, I assumed that the new baby would be just like Coco! I looked forward to evenings watching TV with him sleeping in my arms and wrestling-free diaper changes.
Then, I was about half way through Theo's pregnancy when Coco really hit the terrible twos. She wasn't napping at all and she refused to ever sit or stay still on the bus or tram. It was so exhausting - and embarrassing - to chase her up and down the aisle of the tram, all the while being chided by disapproving old ladies. I avoided going anywhere beyond walking distance with her unless I absolutely had to.
I remember looking at J one night after we'd finally gotten her to sleep and and saying, "You know, this baby sure is lucky he's already in there, because I don't know if I could reasonably get pregnant right now knowing what it's like to have a two-year-old!" And now, when I think of that, I just have to laugh!
In all fairness, it's pretty natural to assume that your second baby will be like your first baby, but Coco and Theo are so different! He was never a fan of sleeping in my arms while I watched TV, but preferred to be put into bed in the evening. And, just a few hours after he was born, I literally had to pin him down to change his diaper! He was wrestling me from the first change.
As they get older, it's amazing to see their distinct personalities emerge and grow. Coco is so high-energy, she never stops talking and she loves a big party! Theo is quite her opposite. He is very mellow and relaxed most of the time. He still isn't talking very much, and he takes about an hour of being held by me, taking it all in before he gets comfortable at a big party. But somehow, it almost seems because of their differences, they compliment one another so well. We love watching them play or dance together, and while their approaches are unique, they share a love of being outdoors in all seasons and weather. It's pretty magical!
Are your children alike, or different? In which ways? What about you and your siblings? Join the conversation in the comments below. xo